Why Am I Not Laughing?!

This will be a rather short post because it just basically a vent session...

Okay, so two weeks ago to this day, my friend Sarah and I had a small girls night. When I walked into the restaurant to sit down with her, I noticed one of Saline County's finest sitting at the bar. Name is not important, but I knew exactly who he was when I sat down. I know him through no way negative I will say. Anyway, as the night passed on, the bar seats started filling up and a few guys sat down next to me in between me and the deputy. One of them had more than he needed to have. That guy proceeded to "flirt" with me despite the shiny rock on my finger (sorry, some guys are pigs that doesn't phase them). He asked if Sarah and I were off work yet. He assumed that we were bartenders or waitresses. I said "I have been off work about an hour now, but I don't work here." Sarah replied the same. He didn't seem to feel stupid. I reached over to Sarah and sarcastically said "Ha, well we have a winner over here." He asked me what I did. (Here is the main idea of the post) Before I had the chance to answer, the deputy (who I believe had enough too) said, "She is a murderer." Of course he laughed because he doesn't think bad about me as a person. But I didn't think it was funny one bit even though I kind of "ha-ed." The guy who was flirting replied with "Really, you know you would be famous if you killed someone?" He said it with excitement in his voice and a smile on his face. I thought seriously dude?! What the hell?! How is something like that supposed to be funny...to anyone?

Moral of the story, it doesn't matter who you are talking to, watch what you say to someone. I know things are said that are not intended to be offensive and hurtful, but there are things you don't joke about period.

30 days of thankfulness- Day 13

Today, I am thankful for inspirational music. I used to hate whenever I would log onto Facebook and see songs posted as people's status. But there are so many songs out there that have true meaning to them and are very inspirational. The one song that comes to mind first is Martina McBride's "I'm Gonna Love You Through It." The list could go on and on. I am always listening to the radio. I know just about every country song that is played on a daily basis. To me, hearing a song like that is just like reading a scripture out of the Bible. You get back a little bit of hope that was lost. I think a lot about the words that are put into a song. One day I will have my own song written and people will hopefully admire it and find inspiration in it.

Getting in the Christmas Spirit

I honestly do not think that I have been this excited about Christmas since I was a little kid. I cannot buy gifts this year, but I am perfectly fine with that. That is not what Christmas is about, and if that is what you think, I pity you. I am excited about getting to decorate our new home. I am ready to set up our Christmas tree. Going "Hog Wild" this year. Haha!! Oh yes, I planned this last year. I bought Walmart out of red, white, and black decorations. Tyler won't let me bring the white tree in until after Thanksgiving. Seriously, he doesn't even want it in the house because he says he'll want to set it up. I don't care. I'm about to go get all of the decorations out of the office closet and start laying them out and inventory what we have and what we need. I'm like a kid again. I am already burning pine candles because I want that Christmasy smell in here. I have loaded down my Pinterest Christmas board with decorating ideas. I walked into Dollar General yesterday to look for posterboard and I saw yard stakes that were so cute I couldn't stand it. Well, obviously I could because I didn't buy them, but you know what I mean. We got our new kitchen table last week so now I have an excuse to go buy another Christmas table runner. Christmas is going to throw up in this house this year. I need to get it out of my system before I burst. I am already watching Christmas movies (right now as we speak I am watching "Christmas with the Kranks.") I am ready for our Christmas party. Last year was so much fun and I am hoping that this year is twice as fun. I love having people around this time of year. I don't know what else to say besides I'm freakin' excited.

30 days of thankfulness- Day 12

Today, I am thankful for our new house. I know we are currently renting it, but we are treating it like we will eventually buy it. It took some warming up to, but I am really enjoying it. I have something to decorate that I am proud of. I am so anxious for Christmas that I can hardly stand it. I am constantly researching decorating ideas for the house. I am full of energy and excitement. As soon as the landlord fixes the minor (yet major) things, I am ready to show it off to everyone.

30 days of thankfulness- Day 11

Today, I am thankful for our veterans. Without them, we would not have the freedom that we do. There are so many things people, myself included, take for granted. We focus on the things that we are prohibited from doing instead of all of the freedoms we do have. This country is not perfect by any means, but we have so many rights that other countries wouldn't know what to do with. Remember that.

30 days of thankfulness- Days 8-10

We have had a lot going on over the past couple of days so I haven't been able to post, but of course, I was writing my thanks down. We are getting Internet tomorrow, so hopefully I will be able to do this without skipping days.

Day 8- I am thankful for the 8th's. I know that this is going to sound weird at first, but I have my reasons. By no means am I happy that I do not have my dad here anymore with me. I miss him everyday. I was such a daddy's girl whenever I lived with him. We had our difference and missed years, but I know that my dad is where he needs to be. January 8, 2008, he passed away from cancer. He was in pain for so long, and I am thankful that that day, he was released from all pain and taken to a better place. Another 8th I am thankful for, July 8th (my birthday..enough said).

Day 9- I am thankful for a wonderful job. I may have already said this one, but I am truly thankful to be working with such great kids. They try my patience sometimes, but they bring so much light to my life. They are little comedians and they have no idea how funny they are. They have no idea how much love and light they bring into a room.

Day 10- Today, I am thankful for my family. Thanksgiving and Christmas are sneaking up on us, and I am reminded of how much their presence means to me. Without my family, I would not be here. I could not happily live my life without them. My mom is the best mother I have ever known. She does not play sides between her children (Tyler included). She goes with what is fair. She is a very fair person. She has the biggest heart of anyone I know. My little sister is my best friend. Yes, we have our differences, but I know that she is just a phone call away and 30 miles down the road. My husband is the most amazing guy I have ever met. He puts up with so much of my nonsense. He loves me unconditionally, he brings a smile to my face everyday. He warms my heart. These 3 people are the reason that I wake up everyday. They are my best friends in the whole world. And I am thankful everyday that I have them in my life.

30 days of thankfulness- Day 7

Today, I am thankful for knowing where my daddy and Carter are. I am thankful everyday for this, but it has been on my mind almost all day. My daddy had made some mistakes in his life, but he was a good guy. He missed out on some of the most important years with my sister and I, but we got to be there with him for his last 4 months on this Earth. He was an amazing writer and had always wanted to go to school to be a minister. I have one existing friend who knew my dad. She thought as highly of him as my sister and I did. People automatically assume that whenever anyone dies, that they all go to Heaven. I think that it is a wishful thought for some because they do not want to think that their loved one is in Hell. I know that my dad is in Heaven with Carter watching over all of us. Tyler said that one of the most comforting feelings despite all of the discomfort of his loss is that he can honestly say he knows where Carter is. He has explained to many people that not all parents know where their children go whenever they pass before the parents. Some parents have to worry about their children whenever they are out doing drugs and other things that are sinful. Tyler, or anyone for that matter, does not have to worry about whether Carter is safe anymore. He is in God's hands and we know that for 100% fact. It is a very comforting feeling to know that if we ever want to see him again, we know what we have to do to get there. I cannot wait for the day that I get to be with my daddy again and get to see my beautiful stepson and actually get to hear him speak words and see him running around. I am thankful for that.

30 days of thankfulness- Day 6

Today, Tyler and I are celebrating our first year of marriage. We have not slid through it effortlessly. We have had our challenges- mainly outside challenges; nevertheless, it's been challenging. Anyone who knows our story understands that means. But this has been the most amazing year of my life. I wouldn't change a thing we have been through because they are all lessons to be learned from. There is a positive spin on everything that has happened. So on day 6, I am without a doubt, VERY THANKFUL for my husband. Without him, I wouldn't have been married obviously, but I probably wouldn't still be living on my own, I wouldn't have had the opportunity to meet Carter, I wouldn't be as goal oriented as I am now, and I wouldn't have a best friend like him. Tyler has brought so much light into my life. He doesn't know how much he has really done for me. I am so proud of his accomplishments, so proud of his outlook on life, so proud to be his wife. I could go on and on and talk in circles about how much I love Tyler and the things that have made me an extremely happy woman. But I won't. Some things are better left in my heart to keep all to myself :) I can't wait to have many more years of happiness!!

30 days of thankfulness- Days 1- 5

I have a late start on posting this, but I have been writing it down.

November 1- I'm thankful for the opportunity to work with wonderful kids & teach them.

November 2- I'm thankful for friends who can be honest with me & not judge me for what I've been through.

November 3- I'm thankful for my JJ. He always makes me happy.

November 4- I'm thankful for all who can make me laugh.

November 5- I'm thankful for the opportunity to spend quality time with my husband.

Each day until the 30th, I'll post & explain more in detail what I'm thankful for.

Having an only child..

For whatever reason last night, Tyler said that people between the ages of 27 and 36 are the happiest when they have their first child. Most people by then have their finances in order, most of their goals accomplished, and just all around more mature. He also said that he only wanted one. It'll be my first, his second. I'm okay with that. I want to be able to give all of my attention to one child. I know a lot of only children. Each of them is different. I looked up statistics about having only children. I was just curious as to what the advantages and disadvantages are. I was surprised at some.

Stigmas of the only child:

• The only child is selfish and spoiled
• The only child is lonely
• The only child is more agressive
• the only child has more of a tendency to play with imaginary friends
• The only child is sickly
• The only child is needy and clingy
• The only child will have problems socializing

Traits of the only child:

• Close to parents
• Self-controlled
• A leader
• Mature
• Dependable
• Demanding
• Unforgiving
• Private
• Sensitive
• Mature beyond their age

Disadvantages:

• Too much pressure from parents to perform well
• No one to grow up with- it would be more fun with brothers and sisters
• Loneliness
• Too quiet in the house after bein outside playing with friends
• Worried about being the sole caretaker of elderly parents
• Pressure to have children to carry on the family name
• Overprotective parents
• Harder to make friends
• Will never have nieces and nephews

Advantages:

• Glad to not have to deal with siblings
• Have friends who are like brothers and sisters but don't have to live together
• Very attached to parents, have a great relationship
• More awareness of self
• Have more help pursuing goals
• More independent
• Have parents undivided attention
• Don't have to share
• Don't have to compare myself to siblings
• Don't have to fight parents for conversation

I just thought this was all interesting. Like I said, I am happy with our decision to only want one child. Carter will always be in the picture, but as far as physically existing childre, one is our limit. We think of it like how we have JJ as our only cat. He gets all the attention that he wants and does not have to share. Yes, he gets bored whenever he doesn't have another cat to play with, but he loves being our boy. This is not to say that if we had more that one child unplanned that we would not be happy, but we are doing all that we can to only have one.