Relationships & Marriage

"The problem with relationships & marriages these days is the lack of compromise & selfishness of one or both. Tyler & I are by no means perfect, but when you look at what we do for each other & how we carry & lift each other up, we have what keeps a marriage strong."

I posted this status earlier. There are many reasons that I believe this. First off, let me just say that selfish people do not work well with anyone. When it is all about you then it is not about anyone else. I hear people all the time talk about how they are in their relationships and things that they expect from their significant other. One prime example; Someone told me one time that she would not do anything nice for this particular guy until she had a "big ole rock" on her finger. And yes, she was very serious about the big ole rock. I guess stuff like that just bothers me because a ring is a ring. That does not define what the marriage is. It is a symbol, yes, but it is not everything. I picked a very simple and inexpensive ring. Anyway, back on subject. People expect so much out of their partner. We are not perfect. We make mistakes. I do not expect much out of Tyler. I expect love, respect, and laughter. Like I said, we are not perfect, but I believe that we have what makes a marriage work. We love each other, can make each other laugh, and we do no dismiss each other's feelings about serious matters. We do things that we do not necessarily want to do because we love each other. We tolerate certain things for each other. We eat each other's sometimes nasty food because we do not want to hurt each other's feelings. Those are some of the small things that make our relationship and marriage work. Also, a relationship is not a competition. If you constantly hold things over your partner's head and/or are looking for things to hold against them, there is a problem. The last thing that I want to say is that you cannot expect happiness. You want happiness, but you cannot "make" someone be happy. You have to be able to rely on each other in good times and bad. There are going to be times where happiness is not present.

I am a firm believer that there is someone out there for everyone. A relationship and a marriage are a two way street. It takes two to make one work.

Ok, I'm off my soapbox now